Let Me See This Differently

Have you been in situations in life and at work that have left you in emotional states such as: confusion, desperation, anger, fear, depression to name a few?  Sometimes it seems that we are only looking in one direction unable to see another way, another point of view. We get in alignment of seeing the unpleasant in the unwanted situation.  However, is it possible to be in a situation that is unwanted, but able to navigate the water and flow in another direction allowing a different perspective to arise?

“A trained mind can accomplish nothing” (A Course in Miracles).  If you look at your situation objectively, you realize that living in angst and suffering is not necessary and not expected.  Perhaps you might realize that it is not what life is about. This is the moment to allow another way of being to emerge in you if you are not satisfied.  Allow, allow, allow and ask yourself “Let me see this differently”. When you get in the driver’s seat of your own life you and have control over your thoughts, you have the power.  Not your boss, not your partner, nor your brother or aunt, YOU!

Sure, situations arise, but how do we grow from them not crumble?  Yes, experiences can be challenging and difficult, but how do we stay in a place that our reactions serve our highest good not drag us further to the dark side?  It is crucial to build within you a core that is unshakable. A core that can take that failure because let’s be honest, a failure is an experience not a characteristic trait.  A core that can manage stress, and know that joy is life’s ultimate manifestation of itself.

“Let me see this differently” has been a tool that I have used time and time again in all areas of my life.  It give me the strength to shift my perception and see how to navigate the challenge, fear, sadness, loss etc…Yes, unwanted situations arise in work life and personal life, but we can and must navigate with clarity and grace.

The Root of Being Unhappy at Work

My job sucks.  I really don’t like my job.  I can’t stand working there.  It’s OK. It pays the bills.  I hate my job, but it is what I know.  It’s killing me.

I find that most always it’s not the job that people are dissatisfied with, but rather themselves for staying in a position that creates disappointment and unhappiness.  Has your manager deceived you in some way? If so, I can understand the incredible unhappiness in the workplace. Most often, this is not the case.

One thing to remember is your job is your choice.  Let us look at the wording of “My Job”. It is not yours in ownership literally.  It is what you are choosing to do. The more time you put into being in a position you “can’t stand”, the deeper the root grows in your dissatisfaction.  In addition, the longer you stay at that bleak job, the harder it will be to leave.

Let us examine the upside.  You acquire skills in every position no matter if you love or hate the job.  Bank your skills and know if you grow unhappy at work, you will leave.  You’ll ultimately have the control and confidence to change that job if need be.  Knowing that you can shift to another position that is more fulfilling is staying in alignment with your ultimate goal: Happiness and Success.

We are capable adults that have the power of choice.  We must protect our happiness even if it means getting uncomfortable (switching positions or sometimes careers) to get comfortable and joyful again.  Stop assigning guilt to your situation and get moving! You can learn, you can go back to school, you can seek opportunities, you can redirect your life, you can take back your power and declare you will no longer accept a position that fosters disappointment and unhappiness.

Finding the Joy

Let’s talk happiness.  This might seem like a no-brainer, but people that are happy in their (personal) lives tend to be happier at work. There is a correlation between being happy at home and being happy at work.  It’s important to note that getting your personal life in order is key to your overall happiness. Nevertheless, here are some steps you can take to create a better and more satisfying work experience.

Find meaning in what you do:  Yes, even if you don’t love your current job.  You can always learn from a job experience. When you take pride in your work, you learn and grow your skills.  When forward thinking, your learned skills and accomplishments will impact your future position.

Employment:  You might be unsatisfied at your job, but it is important to note that you would be unhappier without one.  Take a moment to appreciate what you have.

Work/Life Balance:  It seems that more people find happiness at work when they are able to spend time with loved ones.  Yes, some jobs are “demanding”, however, if you manage your time and can create time with loved ones, you will find more joy.

Look for growth instead of failure in the workplace:  What’s good about where you work?  There must be something. Are you always on edge and defensive?  Try breathing and relaxing. Look for opportunity where your own skills will shine.

Create a social circle and help out:  Have you noticed a fellow co-worker is having difficulties with a task or perhaps is challenged in some areas?  See if you can lend a helping hand. Talk with your co-workers instead of being reticent. Looking forward to seeing a work buddy and helping out could lead to a few laughs and contributing to someone’s progression.