The Hustle Is No Longer Required

Have you been feeling like you have no more to give?  No energy is left in your body and getting up in the morning feels more like a struggle than just shaking off sleepiness?  Now you feel absolutely exhausted, beat-down and mentally depleted.  

We all want a fulfilling life.  We all want a career that we enjoy and we all want love.  We make decisions in hopes that it will bring us closer to what we are desiring.  However, we find ourselves running around the track in circles trying to go faster and faster each lap around.  On top of that, we can often find others cheering us on not to stop. Never stop or we will not reach the finish line.  In the end, we subscribe to this lifestyle motivated by false energy and totally burnt out.

There is a glorification in the business world of being too busy to stop.  There are deep roots in ideas of how to become successful and the way to do it is through hard work, blood, sweat and tears.  But I ask, is there another way? Is it not possible to achieve success and all that you desire and not give up your peace? Is it also possible that finding time for you is a key to success?

Let’s look at some ways to get into the flow of life and allow greatness to circulate in your life rather than chase it:

  1. Finding space for joy.  It is important to counter the hectic schedule with things that bring nothing but happiness.  A bath, movie night out, new restaurant, learning something new like painting or creating a succulent garden. Additionally, make sure to maintain friendships.
  2. Creating time for you.  There are great benefits to stepping away from the demands of life.  It is time to get still. I have always pushed meditation even if that means sitting quietly for 5 minutes a day.  
  3. Time off.  You can not work every single day and expect that you will not crash at some point.  For me, I take off Sunday. I schedule nothing and what I have planned is an activity that is fun.  If I am tired, I do nothing but relax and feel good doing it. We must stop and rejuvenate
  4. Digital detox.  Step away from the device at night.  Don’t bring it into bed with you. The bed is a time to sleep.
  5. Allow, allow, allow.  Let life move through you.  Try not to desperately chase your desires, but rather shift your thinking to a place of allowing and receiving.  Don’t hold onto dreams too tightly. You might miss opportunity. I am not saying do not work. I am suggesting work in combination with flow is how life conspires to bring you your greatest fortune!  

Fear Cuts You Off From The Supply of Answers

A wise woman once told me that fears cuts you off from the supply of answers.  I had no idea that I had been living much of my life in a state of fear.  I was afraid of change though I wanted change.  I was afraid of not earning enough money, afraid I will never own property and the list goes on.  I was in a state of rote habits, doing what was asked and hoping that my sliver of the pies contains enough for me to get by and maybe, occasionally, thrive.

Afraid to move on from your job that no longer sparks creativity?  Feeling low about moving onto a higher position which challenges you more than where you are and in which you are qualified?  Feeling the pull of starting your own business, but afraid to take the leap?  I was too until I really dug into the idea of fear and how it is not serving me.  What I came to understand is that the origins of these fears were based in thought. One single thought that began years ago or in childhood that was accepted by me and spiraled out of control.  I was told the untruth, or I created it based on an experience.  For example, “Starting your own business is what people with master’s degree do. It is important to take a job that is “safe”.  You can’t make money being creative and, therefore, we can’t support this decision to go to that college.  At this point in your life, you really can’t afford to change directions in your career.  Teachers make no money. It’s a career of love not money”.  The list goes on. These untruths were accepted by me and I held myself in bondage by a system of beliefs I imposed and enforced.  In addition, these thoughts played out in other areas of my life, not just work.

After recognizing this belief system, I decided to begin eliminating the power of each thought one by one.  I did not attack all thoughts at once.  Simply one at a time. When an imperious thought would surface, I would slowly recognize it and dismiss its power by affirming that thought is untrue and replaced it with its opposite.  For example, “Starting your own business is something that people with master’s degrees do” became “I have the creative power to start a business and I have enough support and tools to do so.” Slowly, I became aware of the power of my thoughts and the absolute control I have over my life by rejecting the negative ones.  As I have said before, joy is our birthright.  If you are unhappy with the direction of your career, you have the power to redirect. Want to start your own business? You absolutely can! Eliminate your limited thoughts one belief at a time and watch how your life can change.

 

You Are Permitted To Do What You Love

You are permitted to do what you love.  It is absolutely OK to change your career if what you are experiencing is unfulfilling and disheartening.  You do not need consent from others to do what you love. It is not flighty or irresponsible to choose a career that brings you joy.  In fact, is could be argued that it’s irresponsible to your sanity to choose a job that brings nothing but displeasure, anguish, maximum stress and mental limitations.

In order to do something exceptionally you have to like what you do.  It is important to your time on this earth to to ensure that you lived your greatest life.  Why not? Often I find that clients may not have a specific “passion”, but what they do know is that they are unhappy with what they are currently doing.  This is an indicator that it’s time to move forward. You may not know what lights your fire, however, it’s just as important to know what is creating dread in your life.  There is no need to “search” for your passion. Following your inner guide will direct you to applying to a position that feels better than what you are currently doing. You intuitively know what feels right.  Searching for a “passion” might create unnecessary stress.

On the flip side, if you are not listening to your calling then perhaps it’s time.  Sometimes when we shift our perception, that horrid job becomes a job that will fund your startup business or pay for that degree you need to enter the field of your desire.  You will know if you are making the right move because you will feel it and obstacles will start to move. Even if you are having fearful thoughts, you will instinctively know you are making a great decision.  You will have a sense of “knowing” and excitement that you are creating the life you want to led.

You will always be guided if you choose to listen to your intuition.  Things evolve and change. Passions may shift, emerge and change. The most important is that we live a life of happiness and going to a job you dread 40 or more hours a week is selling yourself short on well-being.  I am a firm believer that your birthright is joy. Many of us find ourselves working and living with dangerous high levels of stress. You can be very successful and abundantly fulfilled without sacrificing your birthright.

Finding Strength to Work When Unwanted News Shows Up

Have you been happily moving through life when horrible news appears?  Perhaps you take time off from work, but you eventually have to go back, don’t you?  How can you manage a personal loss, but do your work? How?

I unfortunately, had some horrible news show up in my life recently.  How, I wondered, can I carry on, do my work and grieve? How can I have human emotions, be a mom to a little toddler, a wife and work?  

First, if you can take time off.  Allow yourself to feel the deep human emotions that are coming up involving your unwanted news.  If you can not take off, do your best at work and know that you have acquired the skill set needed to assist you at this time.  Your work experience will carry you and remain confident that you will be be able to get through this difficult moment with grace.  For me, work was a moment to pause my grief/pain/sadness. Once work is over, go home or to your comfortable safe place and allow yourself time to process what has happened.  In order for you to move forward, it is necessary to feel your emotions fully.  Let them express in you how they want to. Stuffing them away only temporarily suppress them.

Each day you will get stronger.  Now is the time to focus on self-care and compassion. Remain healthy in your eating and sleeping habits, perhaps start a new book that elicits feelings of happiness, make a playlist of uplifting music so when you feel anxiety strike, you will bring a joyful beat into your heart, keep exercising or begin with outdoor walks. Now is not the time to slip away to the dark side, but rather be your best friend who is there to lift you up. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe and ask for help.  Friends and family will gladly assist you in your recovery after trauma/grief/sadness.

I write this from first hand experience.  I have had shocking and dreadful news twice in five months.  I wondered how I could I make it?  However, gratitude and appreciation for a life dominant with joy helped me greatly.  I took it day by day.  I remembered the past was gone and the future has yet to come. Here is where I found strength.  A strangers smile, my son’s laugh, a supportive friend bringing me food, a good cry, a new inspiring book to read before bedtime, no news, a long shower with essential oils, a hard cry, and practicing gratitude showed me the light of a new day and the clouds began to slowly, slowly lift.   You can not control what is happening, but you can control how you respond. This is where your power lays.

 

Don’t Let Logic Get in the Way of Change

Have you had the deep desire for change and have felt like it’s impossible?  Thinking your age, now way! Or perhaps this is not what you studied in school and therefore, not realistic.  Thoughts like, I’ve been in this field too long to make that change now. Maybe you have even said others are brave, I just want to make ends meet and not be broke.  Just maybe you have forgotten when you do what you love, money follows.

There are so many ways to rationalize staying complacent and unfulfilled.  I have had many clients tell me they are “happy with the money” they are making, but so very unhappy at their jobs or bored.  We are not meant to simply exist. We are meant to thrive! How do I know this? Same as you. How do you feel when you go to a job you dislike or feel bored and unchallenged vs doing something that lights you up?  Or the thought of working in an environment doing what you really love or starting your own company? There is a huge shift in energy when looking at both feelings. This is how I know that we are meant to live our greatest lives now!

“Don’t let your logic get in the way of change”. -Pastor Yolanda Batts-Celebration Spiritual Center, BK.  I couldn’t agree more. I have found that you are not in fear of doing what you actually want to do.  Of course you’re not. If you simply think of working, doing what you love, you feel joy and excitement.  The fear comes when you think of the absence of not doing what you desire and what it will take to “get there”.  When you align yourself with what you desire, everything shifts. You meet new people that can assist you, you discover classes that you will need, you are in the right place and the right time and have an opportunity you thought was impossible, doors open.

We are constantly in alignment with fear, worry, doubt, anxiety that we have forgotten the opposite is how we are meant to live: fearlessly, confidently, joyfully, energized. Changing our perception around the idea of change begins the journey to living life abundantly. You are a light in this world with gifts of talent. Use them in a way that brings you gratification!

“Only thing we have to fear is FEAR ITSELF.” FDR