Let Me See This Differently

Have you been in situations in life and at work that have left you in emotional states such as: confusion, desperation, anger, fear, depression to name a few?  Sometimes it seems that we are only looking in one direction unable to see another way, another point of view. We get in alignment of seeing the unpleasant in the unwanted situation.  However, is it possible to be in a situation that is unwanted, but able to navigate the water and flow in another direction allowing a different perspective to arise?

“A trained mind can accomplish nothing” (A Course in Miracles).  If you look at your situation objectively, you realize that living in angst and suffering is not necessary and not expected.  Perhaps you might realize that it is not what life is about. This is the moment to allow another way of being to emerge in you if you are not satisfied.  Allow, allow, allow and ask yourself “Let me see this differently”. When you get in the driver’s seat of your own life you and have control over your thoughts, you have the power.  Not your boss, not your partner, nor your brother or aunt, YOU!

Sure, situations arise, but how do we grow from them not crumble?  Yes, experiences can be challenging and difficult, but how do we stay in a place that our reactions serve our highest good not drag us further to the dark side?  It is crucial to build within you a core that is unshakable. A core that can take that failure because let’s be honest, a failure is an experience not a characteristic trait.  A core that can manage stress, and know that joy is life’s ultimate manifestation of itself.

“Let me see this differently” has been a tool that I have used time and time again in all areas of my life.  It give me the strength to shift my perception and see how to navigate the challenge, fear, sadness, loss etc…Yes, unwanted situations arise in work life and personal life, but we can and must navigate with clarity and grace.

Your Desires Actualized

Have you been in the position when all you can think of is having that “thing”?  It’s not a goal

(an objective, aim, target), but a desire (a strong feeling of something you want to happen) deep in your core that lights you up.  Have you thought all you want is that desire and nothing else seems to matter? Have you had the experience when you can’t stop thinking of it and you can’t understand why it’s NOT showing up in your life?

There comes a time when you realize it’s time to let go and trust what you seek will, in time, be yours.  I certainly understanding the difficulty in this principal of prosperity. How can I just let go of something I feel so sure is to be mine?  When you have the deep desire, vision and feeling of it, then it must be yours. Often, we need to let go of the how and get totally involved in the vision-feeling aspect of our desired manifestation.  We must trust that all will align to bring our manifestation into realization.

Getting Anxious?  What you are really saying when you hold on too tight is that “I don’t think this will be mine.  I am in fear that this desire will not show up”. In other words, you are not trusting the process.  For me, I get tripped up in the timeline. My timeline vs the timeline of natural order. Yes, many frustrations lie in I want it now!  However, have you considered now might not be the time to receive because you are in worry, and fear?  Perhaps there is something in your thought process that is blocking you from receiving this? Could it be that in order to receive what you desire, there is some “getting your house in order” that needs to be done first?  Life is not here to beat us down, but rather guide us on this beautiful human journey.

The beautiful poet Rumi says it best, “What you seek is seeking you”.   Try letting go a bit and holding the desire in your vision. Trust your inner guide.  If you feel anxious, doubtful, in worry simply stop and see the vision of what you want.  I know personally the difficulty in this, however, I also have had the experience of letting go and can say it always works out in all ways!

Getting Still

Have things been a bit tough lately?  Do you sometimes feel like you are not yourself? Are you feeling confused regarding a decision or has an unwanted situation presented itself and you feel stuck, lost or upset?

I have certainly felt all that plus more.  On top of all of it, you have to continue to work, go to school, parent etc…how can you deal?  Here are simple tips in managing stress: Exercise, healthy diet, limited alcohol consumption, journaling. However, I want to suggest a few extras to help you along in your day.

Begin The Day Right.  Wake up with just a few extra minutes that will take away the “morning rush” within you.  Even if you have kids (I have a toddler), I still set the mornings tone to be calm and create time to do things without rushing.

Nourishment.  Do your very best to make healthy food choices.  Your body is your physical powerhouse ready and alive. It provides you the most energy that is needed to have a day rooted in balance and creativity.  Also, get out for a walk after lunch even if its around the block. Just get some air and a change of scenery.

Organized.  Stay organized at work.  To be able to do so requires less rushing and more relaxed focus.  Staying free of mess and clutter allows you to be more efficient and clear.  Its ok if you fall into the “I’m not a very organized person”, but you can plan ahead of time and stay on point.

Being Perfect.  We all want to succeed and do our best, but too much pressure, especially in high-pressure working environments, can lead to nervous behavior and inner criticism resulting in disappointment and driving you and others around you crazy!  Do your best. That’s what is required of you and acknowledge your efforts and achievements. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done. Be your own coach and keep constructive criticism healthy.

Get Still And Let Go.  This is the best of the best saved for last.  You have to get still. No distractions. Just a moment where you just sit and connect to your breath.  This does not have to be some out-of-body euphoric experience (though it could). Just sit, relax. Perhaps listen to nature sounds, no sounds, look at a candle, just sit and ground yourself.  Let your body rest in the stillness of who your really are. If thoughts come up, let them, that is a sign of releasing stress. Refocus on the breath and stay in the quiet moment.

Find things that bring joy more often than not.  Perhaps that’s music, cooking a new recipe, doing an arts and craft project with the kids, a monthly spa Groupon, exploring a new restaurant once in a while, seeking out new wines to try, joining a community sports team, doing some yoga at home, starting or joining a book club, finding a spiritual center, listening to a great and uplifting podcast.  Find joy! A prosperous life is lived in love and peace.

Still Looking For That Job?

Still looking for that job?  Have you been looking for a job for what feels like ages?

Seriously, you have been at it.  You have done it all and applied for it all and still…nothing.  You wonder, “What the heck is going on?” Here are a few things to consider that will (hopefully) help and lessen your job search woes.

Pause:  Perhaps this is the moment to take a break and review if getting some more credentials is worth a shot.  Is there a certification that can help? An adult learning master class? Is there a possibility to improve your education in the field in which you are applying?  An online course? Take a moment to review what might be going awry in your search.

Online Presence:  How is it?  How is your Facebook and Instagram looking?  While working as a recruiter, we definitely looked at potential candidates online presence before giving a call.  Unsavory pictures led quickly to the No file. Also, if you have not already join LinkedIn and keep it updated.

Your Resume:  Please make sure the grammar and spelling is perfected.  If you have been using your resume and its getting you nowhere maybe it’s time for a professional review and/or a new approach. Going for a two-pager?  It has to have relevant experience specifically related to the job in which you are applying.  I reviewed many two-page resumes that were very loosely related to the position in which I was recruiting.  I found them long-winded and messy. Case Point: If you have been sending out a resume and its not getting you in for an interview, it’s probably time for a review.

Your Inner Dialogue/Thoughts: Examine your thoughts.  Are you really excited about the specific job you are seeking?  Do you really want to do this and are you bringing true enthusiasm to your search.  Will you be happy in the position in which you are seeking? Are you seeking this specific position because it’s familiar and it’s what you know?  I’m asking you to be honest with yourself. Often life steers us to live our best life and if you are coming up against a bunch a blocks perhaps life is speaking to you, guiding you in another direction which will bring more joy in your work-life. I often advise to see life as it can be, not as it appears to be.  Recognizing your happiness is a great indicator in assessing your career satisfaction.