The Hustle Is No Longer Required

Have you been feeling like you have no more to give?  No energy is left in your body and getting up in the morning feels more like a struggle than just shaking off sleepiness?  Now you feel absolutely exhausted, beat-down and mentally depleted.  

We all want a fulfilling life.  We all want a career that we enjoy and we all want love.  We make decisions in hopes that it will bring us closer to what we are desiring.  However, we find ourselves running around the track in circles trying to go faster and faster each lap around.  On top of that, we can often find others cheering us on not to stop. Never stop or we will not reach the finish line.  In the end, we subscribe to this lifestyle motivated by false energy and totally burnt out.

There is a glorification in the business world of being too busy to stop.  There are deep roots in ideas of how to become successful and the way to do it is through hard work, blood, sweat and tears.  But I ask, is there another way? Is it not possible to achieve success and all that you desire and not give up your peace? Is it also possible that finding time for you is a key to success?

Let’s look at some ways to get into the flow of life and allow greatness to circulate in your life rather than chase it:

  1. Finding space for joy.  It is important to counter the hectic schedule with things that bring nothing but happiness.  A bath, movie night out, new restaurant, learning something new like painting or creating a succulent garden. Additionally, make sure to maintain friendships.
  2. Creating time for you.  There are great benefits to stepping away from the demands of life.  It is time to get still. I have always pushed meditation even if that means sitting quietly for 5 minutes a day.  
  3. Time off.  You can not work every single day and expect that you will not crash at some point.  For me, I take off Sunday. I schedule nothing and what I have planned is an activity that is fun.  If I am tired, I do nothing but relax and feel good doing it. We must stop and rejuvenate
  4. Digital detox.  Step away from the device at night.  Don’t bring it into bed with you. The bed is a time to sleep.
  5. Allow, allow, allow.  Let life move through you.  Try not to desperately chase your desires, but rather shift your thinking to a place of allowing and receiving.  Don’t hold onto dreams too tightly. You might miss opportunity. I am not saying do not work. I am suggesting work in combination with flow is how life conspires to bring you your greatest fortune!  

The Root of Being Unhappy at Work

My job sucks.  I really don’t like my job.  I can’t stand working there.  It’s OK. It pays the bills.  I hate my job, but it is what I know.  It’s killing me.

I find that most always it’s not the job that people are dissatisfied with, but rather themselves for staying in a position that creates disappointment and unhappiness.  Has your manager deceived you in some way? If so, I can understand the incredible unhappiness in the workplace. Most often, this is not the case.

One thing to remember is your job is your choice.  Let us look at the wording of “My Job”. It is not yours in ownership literally.  It is what you are choosing to do. The more time you put into being in a position you “can’t stand”, the deeper the root grows in your dissatisfaction.  In addition, the longer you stay at that bleak job, the harder it will be to leave.

Let us examine the upside.  You acquire skills in every position no matter if you love or hate the job.  Bank your skills and know if you grow unhappy at work, you will leave.  You’ll ultimately have the control and confidence to change that job if need be.  Knowing that you can shift to another position that is more fulfilling is staying in alignment with your ultimate goal: Happiness and Success.

We are capable adults that have the power of choice.  We must protect our happiness even if it means getting uncomfortable (switching positions or sometimes careers) to get comfortable and joyful again.  Stop assigning guilt to your situation and get moving! You can learn, you can go back to school, you can seek opportunities, you can redirect your life, you can take back your power and declare you will no longer accept a position that fosters disappointment and unhappiness.

Self-Care & the Workplace

How do you feel at work?  Are you tired and exhausted regularly?  Do you feel like you are in a dry routine without any enjoyment or minimal pleasure?  Do you often describe your energy level as drained?  Perhaps it is time to look into some self-care.

  1. Exhaustion.  This is something that I have battled with.  I even went as far as going to the doctor to check my iron because I knew something was wrong.  Turns out, I needed to simply SLEEP.  Imagine that?  Try going to sleep earlier.  I know I need about 7.5-8 hours of sleep to function the best.  Figure out your sweet spot and adjust.
  2.  Put your favorite affirmation on your screensaver.  If not that, put something on your desk that reminds you of joy and happiness.  Perhaps a picture of a loved one (or animal), a picture of a dream destination.  Anything that reminds you there is more to life than work.
  3.  Remember that your purpose in life is “LOVE” .  Your occupation is your choice. You are not your job.  It is what you do.  What happens at your job is an experience in your life.  It is not your life.
  4.  Lunchtime.  Make sure you eat healthy, balanced food and take a break to eat.  Even if you stay at work, get away from your work desk, stop and eat calmly.  Eating well will nourish the brain and body.
  5.  Take a break away from the office.  I would eat in the office break room, but would take a walk after for 10-20 minutes.  If you can, get outside. Perhaps a 10 minute break/meditation of sitting still outside?  It really helps to change the scenery.  Yes, even standing outside of the office on a busy street can clear your mind.
  6.  Rushing.  Don’t do it!  Get up 10 minutes early and arrive a bit early.  Added bonus is that it gives you a few minutes to socialize before ‘the doors open’.  Rushing causes stress.  When you feel calm you can adjust to work easily leading to a more productive day.
  7.  Leaving on time!  I know this can be the greatest challenge.  There will always be more to do.  Always.  Remember that it has been proven time and time again that leaving on time leads to better rest, less stress and in the end better work productivity the next day.  If you want to be more focused, you must leave work and take a mental and physical break.  I will repeat, it is not your life.
  8.  Fun!  Yes, you can and must have fun outside of work.  Again, your work is what you do by choice and it is not the master of your life.  You are in control.  Joyful living is one of the greatest emotions which leads to one of the most powerful life boosters: Appreciation.