Don’t Let Logic Get in the Way of Change

Have you had the deep desire for change and have felt like it’s impossible?  Thinking your age, now way! Or perhaps this is not what you studied in school and therefore, not realistic.  Thoughts like, I’ve been in this field too long to make that change now. Maybe you have even said others are brave, I just want to make ends meet and not be broke.  Just maybe you have forgotten when you do what you love, money follows.

There are so many ways to rationalize staying complacent and unfulfilled.  I have had many clients tell me they are “happy with the money” they are making, but so very unhappy at their jobs or bored.  We are not meant to simply exist. We are meant to thrive! How do I know this? Same as you. How do you feel when you go to a job you dislike or feel bored and unchallenged vs doing something that lights you up?  Or the thought of working in an environment doing what you really love or starting your own company? There is a huge shift in energy when looking at both feelings. This is how I know that we are meant to live our greatest lives now!

“Don’t let your logic get in the way of change”. -Pastor Yolanda Batts-Celebration Spiritual Center, BK.  I couldn’t agree more. I have found that you are not in fear of doing what you actually want to do.  Of course you’re not. If you simply think of working, doing what you love, you feel joy and excitement.  The fear comes when you think of the absence of not doing what you desire and what it will take to “get there”.  When you align yourself with what you desire, everything shifts. You meet new people that can assist you, you discover classes that you will need, you are in the right place and the right time and have an opportunity you thought was impossible, doors open.

We are constantly in alignment with fear, worry, doubt, anxiety that we have forgotten the opposite is how we are meant to live: fearlessly, confidently, joyfully, energized. Changing our perception around the idea of change begins the journey to living life abundantly. You are a light in this world with gifts of talent. Use them in a way that brings you gratification!

“Only thing we have to fear is FEAR ITSELF.” FDR

The Root of Being Unhappy at Work

My job sucks.  I really don’t like my job.  I can’t stand working there.  It’s OK. It pays the bills.  I hate my job, but it is what I know.  It’s killing me.

I find that most always it’s not the job that people are dissatisfied with, but rather themselves for staying in a position that creates disappointment and unhappiness.  Has your manager deceived you in some way? If so, I can understand the incredible unhappiness in the workplace. Most often, this is not the case.

One thing to remember is your job is your choice.  Let us look at the wording of “My Job”. It is not yours in ownership literally.  It is what you are choosing to do. The more time you put into being in a position you “can’t stand”, the deeper the root grows in your dissatisfaction.  In addition, the longer you stay at that bleak job, the harder it will be to leave.

Let us examine the upside.  You acquire skills in every position no matter if you love or hate the job.  Bank your skills and know if you grow unhappy at work, you will leave.  You’ll ultimately have the control and confidence to change that job if need be.  Knowing that you can shift to another position that is more fulfilling is staying in alignment with your ultimate goal: Happiness and Success.

We are capable adults that have the power of choice.  We must protect our happiness even if it means getting uncomfortable (switching positions or sometimes careers) to get comfortable and joyful again.  Stop assigning guilt to your situation and get moving! You can learn, you can go back to school, you can seek opportunities, you can redirect your life, you can take back your power and declare you will no longer accept a position that fosters disappointment and unhappiness.

Your Desires Actualized

Have you been in the position when all you can think of is having that “thing”?  It’s not a goal

(an objective, aim, target), but a desire (a strong feeling of something you want to happen) deep in your core that lights you up.  Have you thought all you want is that desire and nothing else seems to matter? Have you had the experience when you can’t stop thinking of it and you can’t understand why it’s NOT showing up in your life?

There comes a time when you realize it’s time to let go and trust what you seek will, in time, be yours.  I certainly understanding the difficulty in this principal of prosperity. How can I just let go of something I feel so sure is to be mine?  When you have the deep desire, vision and feeling of it, then it must be yours. Often, we need to let go of the how and get totally involved in the vision-feeling aspect of our desired manifestation.  We must trust that all will align to bring our manifestation into realization.

Getting Anxious?  What you are really saying when you hold on too tight is that “I don’t think this will be mine.  I am in fear that this desire will not show up”. In other words, you are not trusting the process.  For me, I get tripped up in the timeline. My timeline vs the timeline of natural order. Yes, many frustrations lie in I want it now!  However, have you considered now might not be the time to receive because you are in worry, and fear?  Perhaps there is something in your thought process that is blocking you from receiving this? Could it be that in order to receive what you desire, there is some “getting your house in order” that needs to be done first?  Life is not here to beat us down, but rather guide us on this beautiful human journey.

The beautiful poet Rumi says it best, “What you seek is seeking you”.   Try letting go a bit and holding the desire in your vision. Trust your inner guide.  If you feel anxious, doubtful, in worry simply stop and see the vision of what you want.  I know personally the difficulty in this, however, I also have had the experience of letting go and can say it always works out in all ways!

Getting Still

Have things been a bit tough lately?  Do you sometimes feel like you are not yourself? Are you feeling confused regarding a decision or has an unwanted situation presented itself and you feel stuck, lost or upset?

I have certainly felt all that plus more.  On top of all of it, you have to continue to work, go to school, parent etc…how can you deal?  Here are simple tips in managing stress: Exercise, healthy diet, limited alcohol consumption, journaling. However, I want to suggest a few extras to help you along in your day.

Begin The Day Right.  Wake up with just a few extra minutes that will take away the “morning rush” within you.  Even if you have kids (I have a toddler), I still set the mornings tone to be calm and create time to do things without rushing.

Nourishment.  Do your very best to make healthy food choices.  Your body is your physical powerhouse ready and alive. It provides you the most energy that is needed to have a day rooted in balance and creativity.  Also, get out for a walk after lunch even if its around the block. Just get some air and a change of scenery.

Organized.  Stay organized at work.  To be able to do so requires less rushing and more relaxed focus.  Staying free of mess and clutter allows you to be more efficient and clear.  Its ok if you fall into the “I’m not a very organized person”, but you can plan ahead of time and stay on point.

Being Perfect.  We all want to succeed and do our best, but too much pressure, especially in high-pressure working environments, can lead to nervous behavior and inner criticism resulting in disappointment and driving you and others around you crazy!  Do your best. That’s what is required of you and acknowledge your efforts and achievements. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done. Be your own coach and keep constructive criticism healthy.

Get Still And Let Go.  This is the best of the best saved for last.  You have to get still. No distractions. Just a moment where you just sit and connect to your breath.  This does not have to be some out-of-body euphoric experience (though it could). Just sit, relax. Perhaps listen to nature sounds, no sounds, look at a candle, just sit and ground yourself.  Let your body rest in the stillness of who your really are. If thoughts come up, let them, that is a sign of releasing stress. Refocus on the breath and stay in the quiet moment.

Find things that bring joy more often than not.  Perhaps that’s music, cooking a new recipe, doing an arts and craft project with the kids, a monthly spa Groupon, exploring a new restaurant once in a while, seeking out new wines to try, joining a community sports team, doing some yoga at home, starting or joining a book club, finding a spiritual center, listening to a great and uplifting podcast.  Find joy! A prosperous life is lived in love and peace.

Finding the Joy

Let’s talk happiness.  This might seem like a no-brainer, but people that are happy in their (personal) lives tend to be happier at work. There is a correlation between being happy at home and being happy at work.  It’s important to note that getting your personal life in order is key to your overall happiness. Nevertheless, here are some steps you can take to create a better and more satisfying work experience.

Find meaning in what you do:  Yes, even if you don’t love your current job.  You can always learn from a job experience. When you take pride in your work, you learn and grow your skills.  When forward thinking, your learned skills and accomplishments will impact your future position.

Employment:  You might be unsatisfied at your job, but it is important to note that you would be unhappier without one.  Take a moment to appreciate what you have.

Work/Life Balance:  It seems that more people find happiness at work when they are able to spend time with loved ones.  Yes, some jobs are “demanding”, however, if you manage your time and can create time with loved ones, you will find more joy.

Look for growth instead of failure in the workplace:  What’s good about where you work?  There must be something. Are you always on edge and defensive?  Try breathing and relaxing. Look for opportunity where your own skills will shine.

Create a social circle and help out:  Have you noticed a fellow co-worker is having difficulties with a task or perhaps is challenged in some areas?  See if you can lend a helping hand. Talk with your co-workers instead of being reticent. Looking forward to seeing a work buddy and helping out could lead to a few laughs and contributing to someone’s progression.