The Hustle Is No Longer Required

Have you been feeling like you have no more to give?  No energy is left in your body and getting up in the morning feels more like a struggle than just shaking off sleepiness?  Now you feel absolutely exhausted, beat-down and mentally depleted.  

We all want a fulfilling life.  We all want a career that we enjoy and we all want love.  We make decisions in hopes that it will bring us closer to what we are desiring.  However, we find ourselves running around the track in circles trying to go faster and faster each lap around.  On top of that, we can often find others cheering us on not to stop. Never stop or we will not reach the finish line.  In the end, we subscribe to this lifestyle motivated by false energy and totally burnt out.

There is a glorification in the business world of being too busy to stop.  There are deep roots in ideas of how to become successful and the way to do it is through hard work, blood, sweat and tears.  But I ask, is there another way? Is it not possible to achieve success and all that you desire and not give up your peace? Is it also possible that finding time for you is a key to success?

Let’s look at some ways to get into the flow of life and allow greatness to circulate in your life rather than chase it:

  1. Finding space for joy.  It is important to counter the hectic schedule with things that bring nothing but happiness.  A bath, movie night out, new restaurant, learning something new like painting or creating a succulent garden. Additionally, make sure to maintain friendships.
  2. Creating time for you.  There are great benefits to stepping away from the demands of life.  It is time to get still. I have always pushed meditation even if that means sitting quietly for 5 minutes a day.  
  3. Time off.  You can not work every single day and expect that you will not crash at some point.  For me, I take off Sunday. I schedule nothing and what I have planned is an activity that is fun.  If I am tired, I do nothing but relax and feel good doing it. We must stop and rejuvenate
  4. Digital detox.  Step away from the device at night.  Don’t bring it into bed with you. The bed is a time to sleep.
  5. Allow, allow, allow.  Let life move through you.  Try not to desperately chase your desires, but rather shift your thinking to a place of allowing and receiving.  Don’t hold onto dreams too tightly. You might miss opportunity. I am not saying do not work. I am suggesting work in combination with flow is how life conspires to bring you your greatest fortune!  

You Are Permitted To Do What You Love

You are permitted to do what you love.  It is absolutely OK to change your career if what you are experiencing is unfulfilling and disheartening.  You do not need consent from others to do what you love. It is not flighty or irresponsible to choose a career that brings you joy.  In fact, is could be argued that it’s irresponsible to your sanity to choose a job that brings nothing but displeasure, anguish, maximum stress and mental limitations.

In order to do something exceptionally you have to like what you do.  It is important to your time on this earth to to ensure that you lived your greatest life.  Why not? Often I find that clients may not have a specific “passion”, but what they do know is that they are unhappy with what they are currently doing.  This is an indicator that it’s time to move forward. You may not know what lights your fire, however, it’s just as important to know what is creating dread in your life.  There is no need to “search” for your passion. Following your inner guide will direct you to applying to a position that feels better than what you are currently doing. You intuitively know what feels right.  Searching for a “passion” might create unnecessary stress.

On the flip side, if you are not listening to your calling then perhaps it’s time.  Sometimes when we shift our perception, that horrid job becomes a job that will fund your startup business or pay for that degree you need to enter the field of your desire.  You will know if you are making the right move because you will feel it and obstacles will start to move. Even if you are having fearful thoughts, you will instinctively know you are making a great decision.  You will have a sense of “knowing” and excitement that you are creating the life you want to led.

You will always be guided if you choose to listen to your intuition.  Things evolve and change. Passions may shift, emerge and change. The most important is that we live a life of happiness and going to a job you dread 40 or more hours a week is selling yourself short on well-being.  I am a firm believer that your birthright is joy. Many of us find ourselves working and living with dangerous high levels of stress. You can be very successful and abundantly fulfilled without sacrificing your birthright.

Getting Still

Have things been a bit tough lately?  Do you sometimes feel like you are not yourself? Are you feeling confused regarding a decision or has an unwanted situation presented itself and you feel stuck, lost or upset?

I have certainly felt all that plus more.  On top of all of it, you have to continue to work, go to school, parent etc…how can you deal?  Here are simple tips in managing stress: Exercise, healthy diet, limited alcohol consumption, journaling. However, I want to suggest a few extras to help you along in your day.

Begin The Day Right.  Wake up with just a few extra minutes that will take away the “morning rush” within you.  Even if you have kids (I have a toddler), I still set the mornings tone to be calm and create time to do things without rushing.

Nourishment.  Do your very best to make healthy food choices.  Your body is your physical powerhouse ready and alive. It provides you the most energy that is needed to have a day rooted in balance and creativity.  Also, get out for a walk after lunch even if its around the block. Just get some air and a change of scenery.

Organized.  Stay organized at work.  To be able to do so requires less rushing and more relaxed focus.  Staying free of mess and clutter allows you to be more efficient and clear.  Its ok if you fall into the “I’m not a very organized person”, but you can plan ahead of time and stay on point.

Being Perfect.  We all want to succeed and do our best, but too much pressure, especially in high-pressure working environments, can lead to nervous behavior and inner criticism resulting in disappointment and driving you and others around you crazy!  Do your best. That’s what is required of you and acknowledge your efforts and achievements. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done. Be your own coach and keep constructive criticism healthy.

Get Still And Let Go.  This is the best of the best saved for last.  You have to get still. No distractions. Just a moment where you just sit and connect to your breath.  This does not have to be some out-of-body euphoric experience (though it could). Just sit, relax. Perhaps listen to nature sounds, no sounds, look at a candle, just sit and ground yourself.  Let your body rest in the stillness of who your really are. If thoughts come up, let them, that is a sign of releasing stress. Refocus on the breath and stay in the quiet moment.

Find things that bring joy more often than not.  Perhaps that’s music, cooking a new recipe, doing an arts and craft project with the kids, a monthly spa Groupon, exploring a new restaurant once in a while, seeking out new wines to try, joining a community sports team, doing some yoga at home, starting or joining a book club, finding a spiritual center, listening to a great and uplifting podcast.  Find joy! A prosperous life is lived in love and peace.

Finding the Joy

Let’s talk happiness.  This might seem like a no-brainer, but people that are happy in their (personal) lives tend to be happier at work. There is a correlation between being happy at home and being happy at work.  It’s important to note that getting your personal life in order is key to your overall happiness. Nevertheless, here are some steps you can take to create a better and more satisfying work experience.

Find meaning in what you do:  Yes, even if you don’t love your current job.  You can always learn from a job experience. When you take pride in your work, you learn and grow your skills.  When forward thinking, your learned skills and accomplishments will impact your future position.

Employment:  You might be unsatisfied at your job, but it is important to note that you would be unhappier without one.  Take a moment to appreciate what you have.

Work/Life Balance:  It seems that more people find happiness at work when they are able to spend time with loved ones.  Yes, some jobs are “demanding”, however, if you manage your time and can create time with loved ones, you will find more joy.

Look for growth instead of failure in the workplace:  What’s good about where you work?  There must be something. Are you always on edge and defensive?  Try breathing and relaxing. Look for opportunity where your own skills will shine.

Create a social circle and help out:  Have you noticed a fellow co-worker is having difficulties with a task or perhaps is challenged in some areas?  See if you can lend a helping hand. Talk with your co-workers instead of being reticent. Looking forward to seeing a work buddy and helping out could lead to a few laughs and contributing to someone’s progression.

Hello world!

Your Dream Career Is Waiting for You

Is it time to branch out and start doing what you really love?  Has the moment arrived to take a leap into the knowing that your dream is waiting for you?

I am absolutely thrilled to embark on this incredible journey in helping MORE people strengthen their resume and go after the positions they really want.  With an wonderful career as an ESL teacher, writer and recruiter progressing into resume writing has been an incredible development of my career.   Being in the business of assisting others , I know creating Resume Writers House is what needed to happen.  I am working with highly-skilled people who are just as dedicated and passionate as I am and have finely-honed resume writing skills. I am looking forward to the stories of success, positive changes, abundant living and indisputable, correctly-made career choices.