Let Me See This Differently

Have you been in situations in life and at work that have left you in emotional states such as: confusion, desperation, anger, fear, depression to name a few?  Sometimes it seems that we are only looking in one direction unable to see another way, another point of view. We get in alignment of seeing the unpleasant in the unwanted situation.  However, is it possible to be in a situation that is unwanted, but able to navigate the water and flow in another direction allowing a different perspective to arise?

“A trained mind can accomplish nothing” (A Course in Miracles).  If you look at your situation objectively, you realize that living in angst and suffering is not necessary and not expected.  Perhaps you might realize that it is not what life is about. This is the moment to allow another way of being to emerge in you if you are not satisfied.  Allow, allow, allow and ask yourself “Let me see this differently”. When you get in the driver’s seat of your own life you and have control over your thoughts, you have the power.  Not your boss, not your partner, nor your brother or aunt, YOU!

Sure, situations arise, but how do we grow from them not crumble?  Yes, experiences can be challenging and difficult, but how do we stay in a place that our reactions serve our highest good not drag us further to the dark side?  It is crucial to build within you a core that is unshakable. A core that can take that failure because let’s be honest, a failure is an experience not a characteristic trait.  A core that can manage stress, and know that joy is life’s ultimate manifestation of itself.

“Let me see this differently” has been a tool that I have used time and time again in all areas of my life.  It give me the strength to shift my perception and see how to navigate the challenge, fear, sadness, loss etc…Yes, unwanted situations arise in work life and personal life, but we can and must navigate with clarity and grace.

Self-Care & the Workplace

How do you feel at work?  Are you tired and exhausted regularly?  Do you feel like you are in a dry routine without any enjoyment or minimal pleasure?  Do you often describe your energy level as drained?  Perhaps it is time to look into some self-care.

  1. Exhaustion.  This is something that I have battled with.  I even went as far as going to the doctor to check my iron because I knew something was wrong.  Turns out, I needed to simply SLEEP.  Imagine that?  Try going to sleep earlier.  I know I need about 7.5-8 hours of sleep to function the best.  Figure out your sweet spot and adjust.
  2.  Put your favorite affirmation on your screensaver.  If not that, put something on your desk that reminds you of joy and happiness.  Perhaps a picture of a loved one (or animal), a picture of a dream destination.  Anything that reminds you there is more to life than work.
  3.  Remember that your purpose in life is “LOVE” .  Your occupation is your choice. You are not your job.  It is what you do.  What happens at your job is an experience in your life.  It is not your life.
  4.  Lunchtime.  Make sure you eat healthy, balanced food and take a break to eat.  Even if you stay at work, get away from your work desk, stop and eat calmly.  Eating well will nourish the brain and body.
  5.  Take a break away from the office.  I would eat in the office break room, but would take a walk after for 10-20 minutes.  If you can, get outside. Perhaps a 10 minute break/meditation of sitting still outside?  It really helps to change the scenery.  Yes, even standing outside of the office on a busy street can clear your mind.
  6.  Rushing.  Don’t do it!  Get up 10 minutes early and arrive a bit early.  Added bonus is that it gives you a few minutes to socialize before ‘the doors open’.  Rushing causes stress.  When you feel calm you can adjust to work easily leading to a more productive day.
  7.  Leaving on time!  I know this can be the greatest challenge.  There will always be more to do.  Always.  Remember that it has been proven time and time again that leaving on time leads to better rest, less stress and in the end better work productivity the next day.  If you want to be more focused, you must leave work and take a mental and physical break.  I will repeat, it is not your life.
  8.  Fun!  Yes, you can and must have fun outside of work.  Again, your work is what you do by choice and it is not the master of your life.  You are in control.  Joyful living is one of the greatest emotions which leads to one of the most powerful life boosters: Appreciation.

Your Desires Actualized

Have you been in the position when all you can think of is having that “thing”?  It’s not a goal

(an objective, aim, target), but a desire (a strong feeling of something you want to happen) deep in your core that lights you up.  Have you thought all you want is that desire and nothing else seems to matter? Have you had the experience when you can’t stop thinking of it and you can’t understand why it’s NOT showing up in your life?

There comes a time when you realize it’s time to let go and trust what you seek will, in time, be yours.  I certainly understanding the difficulty in this principal of prosperity. How can I just let go of something I feel so sure is to be mine?  When you have the deep desire, vision and feeling of it, then it must be yours. Often, we need to let go of the how and get totally involved in the vision-feeling aspect of our desired manifestation.  We must trust that all will align to bring our manifestation into realization.

Getting Anxious?  What you are really saying when you hold on too tight is that “I don’t think this will be mine.  I am in fear that this desire will not show up”. In other words, you are not trusting the process.  For me, I get tripped up in the timeline. My timeline vs the timeline of natural order. Yes, many frustrations lie in I want it now!  However, have you considered now might not be the time to receive because you are in worry, and fear?  Perhaps there is something in your thought process that is blocking you from receiving this? Could it be that in order to receive what you desire, there is some “getting your house in order” that needs to be done first?  Life is not here to beat us down, but rather guide us on this beautiful human journey.

The beautiful poet Rumi says it best, “What you seek is seeking you”.   Try letting go a bit and holding the desire in your vision. Trust your inner guide.  If you feel anxious, doubtful, in worry simply stop and see the vision of what you want.  I know personally the difficulty in this, however, I also have had the experience of letting go and can say it always works out in all ways!

Still Looking For That Job?

Still looking for that job?  Have you been looking for a job for what feels like ages?

Seriously, you have been at it.  You have done it all and applied for it all and still…nothing.  You wonder, “What the heck is going on?” Here are a few things to consider that will (hopefully) help and lessen your job search woes.

Pause:  Perhaps this is the moment to take a break and review if getting some more credentials is worth a shot.  Is there a certification that can help? An adult learning master class? Is there a possibility to improve your education in the field in which you are applying?  An online course? Take a moment to review what might be going awry in your search.

Online Presence:  How is it?  How is your Facebook and Instagram looking?  While working as a recruiter, we definitely looked at potential candidates online presence before giving a call.  Unsavory pictures led quickly to the No file. Also, if you have not already join LinkedIn and keep it updated.

Your Resume:  Please make sure the grammar and spelling is perfected.  If you have been using your resume and its getting you nowhere maybe it’s time for a professional review and/or a new approach. Going for a two-pager?  It has to have relevant experience specifically related to the job in which you are applying.  I reviewed many two-page resumes that were very loosely related to the position in which I was recruiting.  I found them long-winded and messy. Case Point: If you have been sending out a resume and its not getting you in for an interview, it’s probably time for a review.

Your Inner Dialogue/Thoughts: Examine your thoughts.  Are you really excited about the specific job you are seeking?  Do you really want to do this and are you bringing true enthusiasm to your search.  Will you be happy in the position in which you are seeking? Are you seeking this specific position because it’s familiar and it’s what you know?  I’m asking you to be honest with yourself. Often life steers us to live our best life and if you are coming up against a bunch a blocks perhaps life is speaking to you, guiding you in another direction which will bring more joy in your work-life. I often advise to see life as it can be, not as it appears to be.  Recognizing your happiness is a great indicator in assessing your career satisfaction.